Anonymous asked: My first love broke up with me two weeks ago over a small fight. He's 31, I'm 21. Even though I knew it was an idiotic move on his part, I still wanted him back and I told him so. He said he wasn't sure what/how he was feeling. Last night he called me to tell me he didn't think we should see one another for a long time. He said he didn't want to break my heart all over again, especially if he was with someone else and that I "wasn't enough." I don't want comfort right now. Just some good advice.

Chances are, this small fight wasn’t the reason he ended it. He was most likely thinking about it in his head at least a few times.

 if he said the words “not enough” or “you aren’t good enough” First off, he isn’t the right guy. Deep down you know that already, I just had to say it. Secondly, Be confident. Don’t tell him you want him back-even if you feel that way. He needs to know that even though he hurt you-you aren’t under his thumb. 

The first love is always the hardest to get over, even if you are the one to end it. He probably wants freedom to do what he wants. Seeing one another is NOT a good idea. It’s too fresh. You need time to heal. You’re going to feel like crap for a while, but I promise you’ll be okay. Give yourself a time limit. Say “i’m going to cry for a whole week and eat all the junk food I want” Go ahead and feel as shitty as you want.but after that week, pick yourself up and move on. It’s hard to find the strength, but I know you have it. Everyone has it.

I hope I helped a little. You are my first message, so thank you for the chance to help. I’m always here! 

-Alexandra